The Power of a Parent's Words: A Simple Habit That Builds Stronger Families

"Therefore encourage one another and build each other up."

- 1 Thessalonians 5:11

A few years ago, my husband Derek decided he wanted to be more intentional about encouraging the people he loved. He started jotting down quick notes for me and the kids. It wasn’t long or complicated—just a short, heartfelt reminder of how much he appreciated us.

That small act sparked an idea. What if he made encouragement a part of his daily routine?

From that day on, Derek began writing one encouraging note every morning. Most days, he’d write to a friend, coworker, or someone God put on his heart. But once a month, he’d write a special note to me and each of our kids.

Every time the kids woke up to find a note on the floor next to their door, their faces lit up. Each message was different. Sometimes it was a quick “I’m so proud of you!” Other times, it was a reminder of a Scripture verse or a loving affirmation of their unique gifts.

These notes have become a small but mighty tradition in our home. They brighten our mornings, remind us of how much Derek cares, and build each of us up in ways we didn’t even know we needed.

What’s been even more amazing is how this simple habit has inspired our kids. They’ve started writing encouraging notes back to Derek—and even to each other and their friends! Watching them mimic their dad’s example and grow in kindness and love for one another has been one of the sweetest rewards.

As Christian parents, we know that our words carry so much weight. They shape our children’s hearts, their confidence, and even their view of God. Proverbs 18:21 reminds us that “the tongue has the power of life and death,” and as parents, we hold that power in our hands daily.

1 Thessalonians 5:11 tells us to “encourage one another and build each other up.” This isn’t just for the church—it’s a reminder for our families too. Regular encouragement fosters a healthy, loving atmosphere where children (and parents!) can thrive.

So why not take a moment to encourage your children today? Write a short note, send a quick text, or simply look them in the eye and tell them how much they mean to you.

Derek’s little habit of writing notes has had a ripple effect in our home. It’s drawn us closer together, strengthened our family bond, and taught our kids the power of kind words.

Sometimes, the simplest acts of love have the most profound impact. You never know how much a few words of encouragement can brighten someone’s day—or even change their life.

Key Points:

• Words Have Power: Your words shape your child’s heart and confidence. Simple, encouraging messages can make a lasting impact on their lives.
• Small Habits Make a Big Difference: Starting a routine, like writing notes of encouragement, can strengthen family bonds and set an example of love and kindness for your children to follow.